Saturday, August 29, 2009

We Mourn Again




REMARKS BY THE PRESIDENT
EULOGY FOR SENATOR EDWARD M. KENNEDY

Our Lady of Perpetual Help Basilica
Roxbury, Massachusetts

12:35 P.M. EDT

THE PRESIDENT: Your Eminence, Vicki, Kara, Edward, Patrick, Curran, Caroline, members of the Kennedy family, distinguished guests, and fellow citizens:

Today we say goodbye to the youngest child of Rose and Joseph Kennedy. The world will long remember their son Edward as the heir to a weighty legacy; a champion for those who had none; the soul of the Democratic Party; and the lion of the United States Senate -- a man who graces nearly 1,000 laws, and who penned more than 300 laws himself.

But those of us who loved him, and ache with his passing, know Ted Kennedy by the other titles he held: Father. Brother. Husband. Grandfather. Uncle Teddy, or as he was often known to his younger nieces and nephews, "The Grand Fromage," or "The Big Cheese." I, like so many others in the city where he worked for nearly half a century, knew him as a colleague, a mentor, and above all, as a friend.

Ted Kennedy was the baby of the family who became its patriarch; the restless dreamer who became its rock. He was the sunny, joyful child who bore the brunt of his brothers' teasing, but learned quickly how to brush it off. When they tossed him off a boat because he didn't know what a jib was, six-year-old Teddy got back in and learned to sail. When a photographer asked the newly elected Bobby to step back at a press conference because he was casting a shadow on his younger brother, Teddy quipped, "It'll be the same in Washington."

That spirit of resilience and good humor would see Teddy through more pain and tragedy than most of us will ever know. He lost two siblings by the age of 16. He saw two more taken violently from a country that loved them. He said goodbye to his beloved sister, Eunice, in the final days of his life. He narrowly survived a plane crash, watched two children struggle with cancer, buried three nephews, and experienced personal failings and setbacks in the most public way possible.

It's a string of events that would have broken a lesser man. And it would have been easy for Ted to let himself become bitter and hardened; to surrender to self-pity and regret; to retreat from public life and live out his years in peaceful quiet. No one would have blamed him for that.

But that was not Ted Kennedy. As he told us, "...[I]ndividual faults and frailties are no excuse to give in -- and no exemption from the common obligation to give of ourselves." Indeed, Ted was the "Happy Warrior" that the poet Wordsworth spoke of when he wrote:

As tempted more; more able to endure,
As more exposed to suffering and distress;
Thence, also, more alive to tenderness.

Through his own suffering, Ted Kennedy became more alive to the plight and the suffering of others -- the sick child who could not see a doctor; the young soldier denied her rights because of what she looks like or who she loves or where she comes from. The landmark laws that he championed -- the Civil Rights Act, the Americans with Disabilities Act, immigration reform, children's health insurance, the Family and Medical Leave Act -- all have a running thread. Ted Kennedy's life work was not to champion the causes of those with wealth or power or special connections. It was to give a voice to those who were not heard; to add a rung to the ladder of opportunity; to make real the dream of our founding. He was given the gift of time that his brothers were not, and he used that gift to touch as many lives and right as many wrongs as the years would allow.

We can still hear his voice bellowing through the Senate chamber, face reddened, fist pounding the podium, a veritable force of nature, in support of health care or workers' rights or civil rights. And yet, as has been noted, while his causes became deeply personal, his disagreements never did. While he was seen by his fiercest critics as a partisan lightning rod, that's not the prism through which Ted Kennedy saw the world, nor was it the prism through which his colleagues saw Ted Kennedy. He was a product of an age when the joy and nobility of politics prevented differences of party and platform and philosophy from becoming barriers to cooperation and mutual respect -- a time when adversaries still saw each other as patriots.

And that's how Ted Kennedy became the greatest legislator of our time. He did it by hewing to principle, yes, but also by seeking compromise and common cause -- not through deal-making and horse-trading alone, but through friendship, and kindness, and humor. There was the time he courted Orrin Hatch for support of the Children's Health Insurance Program by having his chief of staff serenade the senator with a song Orrin had written himself; the time he delivered shamrock cookies on a china plate to sweeten up a crusty Republican colleague; the famous story of how he won the support of a Texas committee chairman on an immigration bill. Teddy walked into a meeting with a plain manila envelope, and showed only the chairman that it was filled with the Texan's favorite cigars. When the negotiations were going well, he would inch the envelope closer to the chairman. (Laughter.) When they weren't, he'd pull it back. (Laughter.) Before long, the deal was done. (Laughter.)

It was only a few years ago, on St. Patrick's Day, when Teddy buttonholed me on the floor of the Senate for my support of a certain piece of legislation that was coming up for vote. I gave my pledge, but I expressed skepticism that it would pass. But when the roll call was over, the bill garnered the votes that it needed, and then some. I looked at Teddy with astonishment and asked how had he done it. He just patted me on the back and said, "Luck of the Irish." (Laughter.)

Of course, luck had little to do with Ted Kennedy's legislative success; he knew that. A few years ago, his father-in-law told him that he and Daniel Webster just might be the two greatest senators of all time. Without missing a beat, Teddy replied, "What did Webster do?" (Laughter.)

But though it is Teddy's historic body of achievements that we will remember, it is his giving heart that we will miss. It was the friend and the colleague who was always the first to pick up the phone and say, "I'm sorry for your loss," or "I hope you feel better," or "What can I do to help?" It was the boss so adored by his staff that over 500, spanning five decades, showed up for his 75th birthday party. It was the man who sent birthday wishes and thank-you notes and even his own paintings to so many who never imagined that a U.S. senator of such stature would take the time to think about somebody like them. I have one of those paintings in my private study off the Oval Office -- a Cape Cod seascape that was a gift to a freshman legislator who had just arrived in Washington and happened to admire it when Ted Kennedy welcomed him into his office. That, by the way, is my second gift from Teddy and Vicki after our dog Bo. And it seems like everyone has one of those stories -- the ones that often start with "You wouldn't believe who called me today."

Ted Kennedy was the father who looked not only after his own three children, but John's and Bobby's as well. He took them camping and taught them to sail. He laughed and danced with them at birthdays and weddings; cried and mourned with them through hardship and tragedy; and passed on that same sense of service and selflessness that his parents had instilled in him. Shortly after Ted walked Caroline down the aisle and gave her away at the altar, he received a note from Jackie that read, "On you the carefree youngest brother fell a burden a hero would have begged to been spared. We are all going to make it because you were always there with your love."

Not only did the Kennedy family make it because of Ted's love -- he made it because of theirs, especially because the love and the life he found in Vicki. After so much loss and so much sorrow, it could not have been easy for Ted to risk his heart again. And that he did is a testament to how deeply he loved this remarkable woman from Louisiana. And she didn't just love him back. As Ted would often acknowledge, Vicki saved him. She gave him strength and purpose; joy and friendship; and stood by him always, especially in those last, hardest days.

We cannot know for certain how long we have here. We cannot foresee the trials or misfortunes that will test us along the way. We cannot know what God's plan is for us.

What we can do is to live out our lives as best we can with purpose, and with love, and with joy. We can use each day to show those who are closest to us how much we care about them, and treat others with the kindness and respect that we wish for ourselves. We can learn from our mistakes and grow from our failures. And we can strive at all costs to make a better world, so that someday, if we are blessed with the chance to look back on our time here, we know that we spent it well; that we made a difference; that our fleeting presence had a lasting impact on the lives of others.

This is how Ted Kennedy lived. This is his legacy. He once said, as has already been mentioned, of his brother Bobby that he need not be idealized or enlarged in death because what he was in life -- and I imagine he would say the same about himself. The greatest expectations were placed upon Ted Kennedy's shoulders because of who he was, but he surpassed them all because of who he became. We do not weep for him today because of the prestige attached to his name or his office. We weep because we loved this kind and tender hero who persevered through pain and tragedy -- not for the sake of ambition or vanity; not for wealth or power; but only for the people and the country that he loved.

In the days after September 11th, Teddy made it a point to personally call each one of the 177 families of this state who lost a loved one in the attack. But he didn't stop there. He kept calling and checking up on them. He fought through red tape to get them assistance and grief counseling. He invited them sailing, played with their children, and would write each family a letter whenever the anniversary of that terrible day came along. To one widow, he wrote the following:

"As you know so well, the passage of time never really heals the tragic memory of such a great loss, but we carry on, because we have to, because our loved ones would want us to, and because there is still light to guide us in the world from the love they gave us."

We carry on.

Ted Kennedy has gone home now, guided by his faith and by the light of those that he has loved and lost. At last he is with them once more, leaving those of us who grieve his passing with the memories he gave, the good that he did, the dream he kept alive, and a single, enduring image -- the image of a man on a boat, white mane tousled, smiling broadly as he sails into the wind, ready for whatever storms may come, carrying on toward some new and wondrous place just beyond the horizon. May God bless Ted Kennedy, and may he rest in eternal peace.

Wednesday, July 29, 2009

VACA




Only 2 1/2 days away from vaca! I am dying! I cannot wait to get to the beach - the warmth - the sunshine - Florida. Venice here we come!

Poor Jess



Poor Jess! I feel bad for her. She is so sweet, so beautiful and she just can't work out the whole romance thing. You would think that such a perfect Barbie doll could find happiness with just about anyone, but it hasn't worked out for her yet. And she seems to try so hard and to want it so bad, it makes me sad for her.

I actually like her. True she is not the brightest star in the sky, but I do think she is genuine. I used to watch the Newlyweds show and she never failed to amuse, but it never seemed put on, it just seemed like it was her, funny, silly, stupid, beautiful - whatever came out - it all felt honest. I find her endearing and with every heartbreak and weight fluctuation - even more so. (Not to mention I am a HUGE supporter of her shoe & clothing line! In fact the ONLY shoes that travel with me on vaca are my Jess's - I simply cannot leave them behind.)

Another Reason to Like Kid Rock

"It's gay. If one more person asks me if I have a Twitter, I'm going to tell them, 'Twitter this sh*t, motherf*cker.'"

:)

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Monday, July 20, 2009

New Phones




After 5 years I finally broke down a got new phone. I know I am SO OLD SCHOOL, a phone, no qwerty sidekicking keyboard for texting, no Blackberry - just a phone, a real phone, one that rings. But I love it. After over 20 years with Verizon, and whoever they were before they were Verizon, we switched to T-Mobile. MUCH better rates, and like damn near everything is free. Michael and I got matching phones, mine is red, his is black. We are not texters, or emailers, so regular phones suit us well. Everyone at work is on me to get a Blackberry, and I think why, so people I hate can bother me more? No thanks. I want to be LESS in touch, less accessible, less connected. I don't think this IM, social networking, NOW world that everyone is all jacked up on is all that great. I think we need downtime, alone time, family time. Remember the day when you left the office/home and no one could contact you till you got back and actually picked up the phone? And remember when people would not dare to call before 9am or after 8pm, because that was family time??? What happened to that courtesy? Where did those boundaries go? Anyway, I am rambling, I like my phone, we are saving money, the end.

Cookie Monster

Friday, July 10, 2009

Pikinik Basket














What is in our pikinik basket?? Oven fried chicken, spicy pulled pork, baked beans, cucumber potato salad, guacamole, salsa, cherries and more! Another lovely day and we couldn't waste it sitting inside! So we had to do a picnic at one of our favorite little hideaway spots, right up the street. It is a wonderful park that has a picnic area, bike trail, lake and play ground. We like to go bike riding there around the lake on nice days, but today was for noshing and relaxing in sunshine.

Strawberry Festival 2009














It was a glorious day - too chilly for our taste, about 75-78 and breezy, - but the sun was out and sky was blue, a rarity around here. Another rarity, we had the day off together! So we spent it at the Long Grove Strawberry Festival. It was a wonderful day. There was so much food - none of it healthy, and all of it on sticks - but all of it delightful! We ate till we were sick and enjoyed very minute of it. It was nice to see so many people out enjoying a family event in this quaint little (upscale)town. Equally nice to see that the terrible economy has not affected Long Grove at all. I guess the filthy rich really do not have to worry about much.... After we walked around and digested a bit, we headed to our favorite area restaurant Shaws Crab House http://shawscrabhouse.com/index.html Where we continued to engorge our bellies with as many fishes as we could catch! I even tried my first bite of sushi. Not a real bite, more like a nibble. It wasn't nearly as gross as thought it would be. Not that I will be ordering it any time soon, but at least I tried it - cross it off the list now. Don't get the attraction, why Michael would choose that over say, my favorite, the luscious and delectable lobster roll on a warm and buttery French Brioch roll, I will never know......

Gorge




Elle Macpherson - GODDESS! Radiant beauty - WOW! How old is she? She's had how many kids? DEADLY! Loving her! Totally jealous.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Ninja Prez

Dreadful News




Victoria Beckham - my idol - my goddess - the woman I worship and aspire to be - just horrified me. And no it is not with this disappointing outfit, she's flying, she deserves to comfortable.... She just REDUCED her bust size! Say WHAT?!?!?!? I know! I am aghast. She just went from a 34DD (FABULOUS) to a 34B (why?). I do not understand, she was perfect, a double zero with double DD's - perfection. Why would she ruin that? I am confused. And despite her transgression, I still want to get bigger boobs.

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Adventure Kitty 2009








Adventure Kitty is back!! He strikes again! The first nice day and he was back outside to terrorize blades of grass and leaves of all sizes. Baby birds beware - Truman is on the loose! His brother Binks - who does not have his own harness, and cannot join Adventure Kitty outside - looked on, unamused.

Saturday, May 30, 2009

THE Fashion Show



I can't help it - I do love it! It is catty and it is reality TV, which I despise, but c'mon - it's Isaac! I LOVE HIM!!!! Who doesn't?!?!?! He is brilliant and funny and warm and brings such humanity to the show. I love when they discuss the thought process behind the design, when they look at what one of the contestants is working on and can envision where it can go and explain it. That is a creative insight I completely lack. I can look at something and say good or bad, yes or no, but to develop it - forget it, I don't have that ability. Maybe that is why I enjoy the show. It features a personality aspect I completely lack. Anyway, it is week 5, I think, and I think the front runners are Reco, Anna and Merlin. (Merlin who should get an award for just being Merlin on a sunny day, he is a riot in real life.) Right now I am leaning towards Anna...but Reco has talent and sewing skills....but then there is Merlin, and you just don't know what might happen there.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

WTF



California, what the hell is your problem?! You are supposed to be the cool kids. The cutting edge. The ones we all want to hang out with. And instead you are proving to be incredibly LAME! What the hell is your issue?!? Why can't you pull your collective heads out of your ass and gives the gays a little equality, a little happiness. Give it up you douches! God it makes me wish you would fall into the ocean!

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Hate to Admit It



She's gorgeous. I hate to say it cause she is such a freak, but come on, how much closer to perfect can you get? Look at this?! I wanted to puke, I think she is a freak - a real freak - with that United Colors of Bennaton collection of kids she drags all over the planet for no appearant reason, and her needless torturing of Brad Pitt...freak show. But you have to admit, she looks perfect. The dress, the color, the draping, she's so skinny, the hair, the make up, it all worked flawlessly. I want to die.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Trek Rules





TOO MUCH FUN!! Today we went and saw the new Star Trek movie - IT ROCKS! You have to have go see it. Even if you are not a fan - it is awesome. So much fun and exciting, explosions, action packed - just a great time. I am so glad we went. We are fans, and could not have enjoyed it more. They perfectly played the characters, showing all the traits and kitchy things that made you love it/them from the begining. Especially the guy that plays Kirk - dead freaking on. He is killer. Could not have done a better job if he tried. And Sulu - way cooler in this version, than on TV. It was a blast, well worth the outrageous sum required to see even the early show at the theater.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Happy Anniversary #4




FOUR YEARS!!! We have made it four years so far - and we are still happy and glad to be together. In fact, we joke about being the only happy couple we ever hear about. We still want to spend time together, try to do special things for each other, all the things most people say you give up on after the first year. We don't get it, we are still each others favorite person, we still wouldn't want to be anywhere else. I guess we are lucky, we found each other. We fit together well. Happy Cinco Day Mayo!

Monday, May 4, 2009

The Big 4 OH



This is me at 40! Can you believe it? I am actually ok with it. The only thing that really bothers me about this picture is no matter how much weight I lose, I still have giant hips. (Thanks Zisser genes.) That and I just don't think I should be this old. I am not put together enough, polished enough to be 40. I feel like I should have paid attention more, taken notes, applied myself more. I still feel like a goof, like I have so much time ahead of me, but I don't. I'm like half dead, sort of. I should be a grown up by now, but I don't feel like one yet.

Friday, May 1, 2009

Saturday, April 18, 2009

Thank You Stevie


"I believe that computers have taken over the world. I believe that they have in many ways ruined our children. I believe that kids used to love to go out and play. I believe that social graces are gone because manners are gone because all people do is sit around and text. I think it's obnoxious."

- Stevie Nicks tells the Associated Press

Sunday, April 12, 2009

Reminder




It is Springtime....Baseball is back...and so is Carlos......

BUY THIS HOUSE

http://home.gckeys.com/index.htm


PLEASE!!! Get us the hell out of here! We are at it again - trying to sell our condo so we can get to Florida this year. We didn't think it would happen, but then all of a sudden, things started moving, and we thought we would give it a shot again. Plus with the first time buyer credit Obama is offering our target audience, we think there is a chance. We hope anyway. We spent this Easter weekend with repairmen and painters, then cleaning all day Sunday, including washing the dog. Fun. I am tired and grumpy beyond belief. Even more surly than usual. Tomorrow is final grout work and carpet cleaning - more fun. But I am leaving that all for Michael, as I am off to my hideous job for 12 hours, then try to list the place ourselves.

I hope this all pays off and we can move this year. I cannot take another winter here. We are paring down what little we have in hopes of cutting our moving expenses down. Not that we have much of anything left, but the less the better. We need to travel light. Anyway, if you hear of anyone that want a nice condo in the Southwest suburbs of Chicago, have them call.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Monday, April 6, 2009

ACM Awards



Who do I love?????? You know it. She deserves it. Could she be more adorable.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

I'm Not Dead



I'm Not Dead

Not this time, not yet. Round three of my near death experiences, and I made it through again. SO THERE! HA!

Sorry I have been away, not that there is anyone out there reading this, but I was busy almost dying. Apparently I had a bacterial infection that went to my brain and caused me to have a seizure. I have been resting and on major meds for the last few weeks. How did I get a bacterial infection that went to my brain - don't ask. How did it get so bad it went to my brain and I didn't notice? Hey, I feel like a pile a crap every day, it takes something sort of major for me to take notice, otherwise, it falls under my usual 'plague-like' daily symptoms. Oh, and I learned I now have Insulinemia - one of the dumbest diseases ever - which is like reverse diabetes - I now produce too much insulin for my body to use so it is wearing out my pancreas, liver and kidneys. Spiffy, eh? But the doctors say that is the least of my problems - LOL!

Actually, I am now fine, the docs were worried the cocktail of meds they had me on would make me so sick I would have to stay in the hospital for the entire time but they had the opposite effect on me. Instead of throwing up, stomache ache, migraines, nausea like I have had every day since this surgery - that all stopped. I actually felt normal - stupid - but normal. They don't know why they made me dumb, or feel better, but unfortunately, they cannot allow me to stay on them indeffinately either. It is like the pill version of chemo and has it own long term draw backs, so I have to go back to being me. And even though I was on all these drugs, I got a chest thing! HA! A little cough, tightness, have to go for an x-ray now to see what that is.... My doc is like "Seriously, you are on more meds than Doctors Without Borders gets in a YEAR, and you get a chest cold - HOW?!?!" And my stupid reverse diabetes is responding to the change in diet which is what they were hoping would happen.

So I'll live. More medical bills, more tired, but alive.

I missed blogging about the Oscars and the great fashion - Miley was the best, can you even believe that?! The kid rocked it. And Hugh, O M G what can a woman say ...